Comments on: I guess that’s why they call it the blues…

By: silenceofcenturies

silenceofcenturies — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:18:38 +0000

oh and sometimes it’s ok if he doesn’t get you… There are somethings that some people close to you just don’t get. For instance, so many times our parents – who are supposed to know everything about us (come one, we’re a part of them) dont understand us, even after having lived with us for their whole lives. For some people its difficult to imagine how it feels like to be someone else.

I sometimes turn to my girlfriends if I feel that my husband is not able to understand me. I share the things with him nonetheless, just expect him not to completely understand. Just because he is not bale to understand doesn’t mean he’s not trying and so I always give him the benefit of the doubt and in the end, both of us are happy!.

By: silenceofcenturies

silenceofcenturies — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:05:55 +0000

My Husband’s had a very strange relationship with his dad. His dad, who’s an Army Colonel has never had anything good to say about him, let alone show any physical affection. He in turn has turned completely silent. He talks less, takes a LOT of time opening up or making friends and is practically non receptive – or so I thought.

He used to cut me off while speaking and go off on a total tangent. It hurt me and I thought he was not paying attention and that whatever I said never meant anything to him.

Anyway, a couple of days back, we were discussing something and he suddenly mentioned something I said sometime ago (as usual he had cut me off and I had thought that he was not paying attention), I felt surprised. It turns out, he listened and registered everything I said, just that he always feel socially awkward – so much so that he is sometimes awkward with me too! Living with him, I have learnt to read his silences. Thats really what happens when two people live with each other.

Don’t worry. It comes with time. It took me 6 months of living with him to realize what he is saying when his lips aren’t moving….

By: Monkey

Monkey — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 22:41:05 +0000

*sigh* i think you deserve the things you want. you deserve someone who tells you every day how pretty you are. i may not really know you, but i think everyone deserves that, and i also think that no matter what type you are, you’re someone’s type.

By: singlefabulous

singlefabulous — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 14:22:39 +0000

Me too, we haven’t heard from you in a while! How are things?

By: kara

kara — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 02:05:18 +0000

hey…hope you’re ok!

By: singlefabulous

singlefabulous — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 19:45:01 +0000

I agree with Kara. There may be a million reasons why B. is not comfy expressing affection, and it’s not necessarily good or bad, but what’s most important is that it’s right for YOU. This isn’t the 1st time you have expressed these wishes, and it’s clear that you really want to be with someone who is expressive. You truly deserve to have that.

By: kara

kara — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 12:44:10 +0000

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable.

I think you’ve weighed both sides and taken into his consideration his personality and upbringing. You’ve tried to understand how he is.

Do you know if he was like this in his past relationships? Just curious. Because maybe he’s just that type of BF. Doesn’t mean that that’s bad or good, but that is just the way he is and it might be hard for him to step out of that mold once in awhile and express himself the way you’d like him to from time to time.

What might be unreasonable is if you let yourself settle for a situation where you don’t get what you need out of the relationship…

By: Justin

Justin — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 05:13:19 +0000

I feel your pain. I had a girl of over two years that just didnt get me either