Archive for January, 2009

What’s new?

{ January 30, 2009 @ 3:21 am } · { dating, life, moving in, relationships }
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I had such good intentions for several posts I was going to write in January, discussing my goals for the new year and whatnot.  That didn’t happen.  But suffice it to say that none of it was terribly original anyway.  I mostly have the same goals as everyone else.  Blah blah blah, you know?

Anyway, I’ve been gone for a while.  Not from my life, just from this blog.  When everything is going along normally, I don’t have much to write about, I guess.  I guess I need more angst.  Not that I want it.  I would rather have writer’s block than genuine angst, I guess.

So what have I been up to lately?  More of the same, mostly.  I saw Wicked over the weekend.  It was the last weekend in Chicago, and I hadn’t realized it was leaving until the last minute, so I got totally nailed on the ticket prices, but I did manage to get tickets so B and I had a nice night out in the city.  Wicked was great, by the way.  Go see it if you can when it tours. 

Also, I got a new car!  Yay!  I am 30 years old (for another month) and this is my first new car ever!  Actually it is the first car that I’ve ever really bought.  The last one I bought from my mom, so I don’t think that counts.  I am extremely lucky that I had gotten a rather large settlement (on one of my cases I was working on) right before my tangle with the plow truck, so I was able to buy the car.  Had I gotten in the accident about 3 weeks earlier, I would have cried a lot of tears worrying about how I was going to get a new car.  Sadly, I cleaned out the savings account I had just opened, but I had enough to buy the new car (Honda CR-V) and don’t have to worry about a car payment.   So I was happy.  Now I’m back to poor.  It was so nice to have a nice savings account for once.  It was fun while it lasted. 

Speaking of financials, I had one beast of a year last year.  I just got my W-2 today, and it was not pretty.  But this year has already started off extremely well for me and I have another big settlement coming.  So I finally feel better about my financial security (something that has always been an issue for me, especially because of my very very large student loans).  I hope those kind of worries are behind me.  But I guess those kind of worries never go away, right?

As for B and I – well, we’ve been dating for two years now.  Things are moving along.  For the last month or two I have really been starting to feel anxious about us moving in together.  Not anxious nervous, but anxious ready.  We’ve talked about it for a while, as you guys know, but I never felt like I was in a big rush.  Always there have been hurdles for both of us to get over before it could happen.  For me, I need to find a job closer to where he lives.  For him, he needs to fix a few things in his house and sell it before he could buy a new (and bigger) one.  I’ve basically decided that I would move up there, even with the job I have now.  And perhaps the commute would motivate me to finally hit the job trail harder than I have in the past (and present). 

So now I feel like I’m waiting on him and I want it to happen soon. 

And before I always figured that he would buy a new house (and that’s how he talks about it too), and then I would move in with him.  But now that I have more cases paying out and will have substantial amounts of capital to contribute, he has said a few things about us buying it together.  I’m not sure how I feel about that.  It seems like too big of a commitment given that we are not married (or at least engaged).  Even when I had roommates I never wanted to jointly buy anything, because at some point you move on, and then who takes the item that you bought together?  And obviously a house is a much bigger deal.  Of course I wouldn’t even move in with him if I thought we were going to break up, but one never knows.  What do you think?  I guess when it gets closer to becoming a reality we will have to talk about it. 

Anyway.  Anyone watch Lost last night?  I love you, Lost, but the time travel thing is super annoying.  Seriously.  Stop it.  Same goes for Izzy’s ghost on Grey’s Anatomy.  He’s gotta go.

Silver Linings

{ January 12, 2009 @ 4:16 am } · { Scary }
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Things that sucked about yesterday:

1.  The never ending snow in Chicago this winter

2.  The unadulterated, life-flashing-before-my-eyes terror of being hit by a plow truck (twice) before careening across 4 lanes of a busy expressway and coming to rest at the median.

3.  My totalled car

4.  My ruined plan to wait a few more months before buying a new car when I get my next bonus

5.  The crappy attitude of the police officer who apparently didn’t like my responses to his questions while I was still shaking like a leaf and unable to form clear thoughts. 

6.  The traffic ticket

7.  The inevitable increase in my automobile insurance

Things to be thankful for about yesterday:

1.  The ridiculous amounts of snow piled up on the shoulder of the road that allowed me to come to a full stop about half a foot before I crashed head on into the cement median.

2.  God, fate, karma, or whatever rule of the universe that allowed me to slide sideways across 4 lanes of busy expressway traffic without being hit again.

3.  My ability to walk away from that accident without anything more than a tiny bit of soreness.

4.  That nobody else was hurt (my civic didn’t even make a dent in the plow truck).

5.  The friendly tow truck driver who kept smiling even though he first had to shovel several feet of snow away from the front of my car before being able to hook me up and winch me out of the snowbank.  I needed that smile. 

6.  My boyfriend who came to find me and waited until the tow truck driver arrived and during my follow-up with the police officer.

7.  My boyfriend who held my hand as I cried all the way to dinner about 2 hours later because it was that scary.

8.  Even though my new car plan is foiled, I got a bonus check last week that will allow me to buy a decent and relatively new used car with cash.  So while I will not get the car of my dreams, I’m at least thankful to have the means to still work something out.